Little Girl Me and Child Me

I can relate to this …acting like a little girl

which makes sense if we look at BPD through the lens of Young’s Schemas

 When a person is operating out of the Abandoned/Abused Child mode, she’s feeling victimized and abandoned. She’s afraid. She’s probably feeling isolated and emotional, needy and frantic for someone to help her feel calm again. Her reactions to current situations are based in the past – to some time in childhood when she felt abandoned, rejected or frightened.

 The Angry/Impulsive Child Mode is a reaction to the internal child who did not have her needs met. She rages at past mistreatment and unmet emotional needs. She reacts in the present to real or perceived instances of mistreatment, rejection or abandonment. Paradoxically, the Angry/Impulsive Child mode ensures with these dramatic reactions that her needs will continue not to be met (by making others frightened or angry and thereby pushing them away).


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