I could use some advice 

why is it that I can motivate other children but not my own? I’m not generalizing, rather specifically related to school……which starts in 3 days….and I can’t think of anything positive to say about it.

They aren’t going to learn anything new…there are going to be 29 other kids in the class, some of them aggressive, most of them very loud, the teacher will use lots of screaming to control them, rush them and punish them to work during breaks if they don’t finish the work….there will be lots of worksheets, since that’s what matters that they know how to fill in worksheets, little to none individual encouragement or adapted for individual work….and motivation? I think that’s a foreign word for the teachers…motivating students?hahaha

So how do I motivate them to go? They literally get headaches from school….from all the yelling….

This is the culture, pure behaviorist but focused only on the negative….if at least there were some rewards (which anyway shouldn’t be needed if the teaching was done right) but it’s punishment and negative reinforcement all day long….

What really sucks is that school is supposed to be fun, you should want to ho to school to learn to explore to be inquisitive to develop..,.yet school here cuts your brain out and teaches you to OBEY never to think on your own 

Yeah I get that my own attitude is shitty but the system sucks. I know it…..

But somehow I have to convince my boys that it’s worth it, ok let’s not go that far, but at least to make them at least want to try it….

Can’t do homeschooling cause their dad won’t ever agree nor can I afford it now 

So…. Thoughts? I’m usually good at motivating others and with typical children that only know THIS system I could find ways to motivate them to go to school….but my kids “unfortunately ” have seen other stuff and know how fun it is to learn and remember WANT to learn….


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