I choose not to be bitter 


I have to write this as I have been feeling it since last night, and given that I am overwhelmed it may be good to write the stuff that’s sorting out….

So I choose not to be bitter about my ex-h. What is done is done, our life together ended, by my choosing. If he did stuff when we were married, that’s his problem, good for him. It’s in the past. I never heard anything and knew nothing and yeah I’m sure that if I try to dig I could find something….but it doesn’t affect me in any way. 

I choose not to be bitter about him indirectly kicking me out, and having his new-g/f move in… I choose not to be bitter about him trying to erase me from his life. 

What I do choose is to continue to support his relationship with the boys and encourage them to do stuff together. 

I choose to believe that he cares about them and wants what’s best for them. 

So, it doesn’t matter what went on between us, it’s over, and a new chapter began, with both of us doing the best we can with and for the boys. 

We had 9 years together, good and bad times and they ended. I’m ok with that. 
Well…if I could get the restof my life sorted out….it would be great. 

One step at a time:)

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