Dialectical Behavior Therapy Validation Strategies for Parents | Dialectical Behavior Therapy Understood

Dialectical Behavior Therapy Validation Strategies for Parents | Dialectical Behavior Therapy Understood.

How Do We Validate

Validation and active listening techniques are specific ways of approaching your child to increase cooperation and balance the change we are often asking for from our children.

  1. Responsiveness: Addressing our children with interest in what they are saying, doing and understanding. Expressing concern about his or her wishes and needs.

  2. Warm engagement: Approaching kids with warmth and friendliness. Active positive communication with our voice, tone and posture.

  3. Self-Disclosure: Communicating our own attitudes, opinions, and emotional reactions to our children, as well as reactions to how they are behaving.

  4. Genuineness: Being ourselves, rather than always acting as “parent” or “authority figure.”

  5. Vulnerability: Empowering them, rather than having an exclusively high-power-low-power relationship.

  6. Cheerleading: Cheerleading is helpful in validating the person’s inherent ability to overcome difficulties and learn new skills. It is believing in our children, assuming the best, providing encouragement, focusing on their capabilities, contradicting other people’s criticisms that are not accurate, and providing praise and reassurance.

  7. Articulating their unverbalized emotions, thoughts, or behavior patterns. Children are often unaware of their own feelings and behaviors. It is validating for us to give voice to what they are thinking and feeling.


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  1. Joyce
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 23:54:06

    Reblogged this on MAKE BPD STIGMA-FREE!.



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