Blocks to radical acceptance


Blocks to radical acceptance

  • Radical acceptance does not mean that you embrace the person who hurt you as if nothing happened.  You go forward with knowledge you didn’t have before. You stand up for yourself with respect. The anger and resentment serve as messages to be more careful in the future, to stand up for yourself in effective ways, to strengthen your support system, or to use whatever knowledge you gained to be more effective in living your life. Holding onto the anger or resentment handcuffs you to the past and keeps you reliving a painful event. You continue to suffer though the event is past.
  •  Radical acceptance does not mean you are agreeing to a situation or action. It means you are acknowledging that the event happened and is real..The truth is that you did whatever you did. You don’t have to approve or agree, but the facts are the facts.
  • You may be using anger to protect yourself from more painful feelings such as hurt, sadness and emotional pain. As long as you stay angry you don’t feel as vulnerable. Feeling sad and hurt can make you feel quite vulnerable. In this case anger is a secondary emotion and you are blocking your primary emotions. As long as you block your primary emotions you cannot heal.

    You may be using anger to protect yourself from more painful feelings such as hurt, sadness and emotional pain. As long as you stay angry you don’t feel as vulnerable. Feeling sad and hurt can make you feel quite vulnerable. In this case anger is a secondary emotion and you are blocking your primary emotions. As long as you block your primary emotions you cannot heal.

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  1. Joyce
    Jul 28, 2015 @ 12:00:02

    Reblogged this on MAKE BPD STIGMA-FREE!.

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