The Family Secret: BPD and Codependency

The Family Secret: BPD and Codependency.

Am I codependent?

I recently saw a questionnaire which I’ve adapted for people with BPD.

  1. Do you have a hard time saying no to others, even when it’s in your best interest to do so?
  2. Are you always sacrificing your own needs for others?
  3. Do you derive a feeling of self-worth from helping others?
  4. Would you feel guilty or worthless if you stopped helping others?
  5. Do you know how to have friendships that don’t involve you in the “helper” role?
  6. Would you still be friends with friends who no longer needed your help?
  7. Do you feel resentful when others are not “grateful enough”?
  8. Do you feel uncomfortable when you are receiving help, rather than giving it?
  9. Do you think your friends have chaotic lives and drift from crisis to crisis?
  10. Did you grow up in a chaotic family?
  11. Did you think it was up to you to keep the family functioning when you were growing up?
  12. Are many of your friends plagued with severe social or emotional problems?
  13. Is it important for you to be “the dependable one”?

If you answered “yes” to a lot of these questions, you may have a problem with codependency.


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