Friends she approved of …

There were friends she approved of, while I was growing up…. but maybe I should describe those two friends she approved of, yes two, as in one-two people…. I’m not exaggerating, I’m actually talking about the number two, one girl and one boy that for her were ok….

What am I talking about? If you read the Invalidating environment you will see what I am talking about… how from early on I learned that I shouldn’t trust people, that they are “bad”, they will betray you, they will leave you…

Well… one of these two people that she approved of was a girl that was condescending to the core… she managed to criticise everything that I ever did…which, really, who was she to do it? since we were the same age, it’s not like she could have that much more experience than me… but she was really good at pointing out the negatives, at telling me how I will screw I am a bad friend to her because I had to move away with my family, that I didn’t care about her, that she read some books which I haven’t and that made her feel superior to me, because she could quote from them and I had no idea what she was talking about…

so of course that when I had other friends that were emotionally supportive they weren’t good enough…

the second friend she liked was a boy…who was very pragmatic and showed little emotion, as he didn’t have time for emotions, fact and getting things done were way more important… and that made him attractive for her and a good influence on me… to ground me, to show me “the way”, the right way..


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