31 DAYS OF BPD: DAY 2: WHY DID YOUR LAST FRIENDSHIP END?


Time and space…. I like to run away and move.. it’s the easiest thing to do, as a coping mechanism for the fear of being abandoned. I’ve moved a lot in my life, and I don’t mean neighbourhoods, I don’t even mean countries, I’m talking about continents.. so yeah I use space as a means of breaking up, as a means of letting go and distancing myself.

I prefer not to fight with friends, cause if I do, that’ll be the end, forever.. since being assertive still needs practice, I tend to be aggressive and say stuff that hurts… But being passive and allowing myself to be walked on means that I will slowly let go of the relationship and let it fade.. I will let the other one understand by not saying anything .. that we’re done.

Yeah… as I write this I realise that I definitely need to work on being assertive. I need to practice expressing my needs and wants, and I’m quite confident that if I will, my friends, if they are “true friends” will understand and not walk away.


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  1. patriciahesson
    Jul 27, 2015 @ 17:01:25

    I totally get this – I have moved 3 times in the last 5 years, and we are finally looking at a house to move in by the end of this year. The odd thing is, I move local, but away from what I *think* is the “site of the crime” (i.e. unfaithful hubby stopped being unfaithful, so we need to move so he doesn’t have any reminders of why he did it in the first place; the neighbors here were really nasty, and even though they moved, it caused a lot of fights between hubby and I, so now we need new ground to put energy into,etc.).
    I tend to avoid making friends, for this reason – I always seem to need isolation, but then I tend to feel unwanted if they don’t try to invade my personal space. ugh….

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