Ride the wave

Mindfulness is a technique widely used, that teaches us to stay in the moment.. nonjudgmental


It’s like you’re watching your thoughts, they are but clouds that fly by in the blue sky, or waves the ocean brings to the shore..

How can you practice it? Go for a walk, and feel your feet slowly move one in front of the other, feel yourself walk. It’s become such a habit that you don’t even know you’re doing it. I’m typing right now and I don’t have to pay attention to the letters, as it’s become such an automated behaviour… but

But… if i let my fingers feel each letter, each tip of my finger stay with the feeling of touching the letters, theBaby-Baby-Feet-iconn i’m in the moment. Kind of hard to do, given that I’m also writing and formulating a thought:)

So go for a walk and focus on your steps.

Or if you’re in bed, just breathe. Breath in and out, feeling the air go in your nostrils and down to your stomach that’s slowly rising. Let the air out and feel your stomach relax, and the air come out of your nostrils. Just stay with the breath. Don’t judge it, don’t think the air is cold or there’s a weird smell from your neighbours’ cooking, just stay with the breath. Slowly in and slowly out.

Well….. once you master this skill, you can apply it to the emotions. Yeah, the anger, the sadness, the fear, why not the joy as well.When the emotion arises, which it will, just stay with it. Ride it. Ride it like a wave if you wish, ride it till it hits the shore and dissipates…

Kind of hard, right? Well it takes practice.

So try it out and don’t be worried if it doesn’t work out at first. You’ll have the tendency to react, especially if it’s anger that overpowers you.

The anger wave is strong and it wants to grab you and force you to surf iimages-4t to the far end and get back on it and fight it. But…. let it go, just watch it hit the shore. Watch it rise, rise and then hit the shore. Let it go..


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